So this morning, as I was laying miserably on our sofa after throwing up multiple attempts at breakfast (forget what I say about nausea ending; I don't believe it ever does), I had forgotten all about the event aforementioned. I picked up my phone to see what was new in the pregnancy apps. Lo and behold, there was a post that said, simply,
"gender at birth?Despite the poster's lack of punctuation, I was intrigued. I clicked on the subject line and began reading the responses of women who have made the decision to wait for their babies to announce their sex. (And no, I don't agree that 'gender' and 'sex' are synonyms, but I understand that a lot of people do use them interchangeably.) Maybe it was because of my empty stomach, or my hormonal daze, but I suddenly saw so clearly that this is what I've been missing out on. Ever since we found out we were expecting, we've been talking and receiving questions about finding out baby's sex and when we will be able to do so. I read somewhere that over 80% of parents choose to find out via ultrasound, not birth, though I'm not sure how accurate that statistic is, since many people obviously don't have the option for a pre-labor sex scan.
Anyone else waiting tell birth to get the gender"
You got it: we have decided to wait until birth to find out this baby's sex. I know not everyone feels the same way, but here is a list of reasons I have for this decision:
- I cried, quite pathetically, when I imagined that final push and hearing my husband's voice announcing to me whether we have a son or a daughter. And I imagine I'll cry, quite happily, when it's really happening.
- Labor is extremely scary for me, but when I imagine the outcome as not just holding our precious miracle for the first time, but also knowing that such exciting news will be waiting for us, I feel a whole lot less afraid and way more determined.
- Regardless of this baby's sex, we probably want to have more children in the future, and buying an array of things that are designed for that specific "kind" of baby would be tempting if we found out pre-labor. This way, we'll have lots of unisex items that can be recycled for the future.
- There are a lot of gender expectations that we wouldn't want our children to be subjected to while they're still trying to develop into fully-formed human beings, and can't even cry audibly to express their disagreement.
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